This is how I will be there for you, my friend
Monday, October 26, 2015
This is how I will be there for you
1) Encourage you to talk;
ask you what’s on your mind
If you seem sad -- something might be on your mind, something
might be bothering you.
I'll ask if I can help. I'll tell you, "Let me know if you
need help, call me if you need me, I will be your listening ear."
If I get the feeling that you don’t want to talk, I'll ask in a
nice way, then leave you alone. I will make an effort to show that I genuinely
care about you.
2) Give my full attention
and listen carefully
If you're brave enough to share what is on your mind, I'll listen
to you without interrupting or offering advice. I will pay attention, focus on
you, and try to understand the way you see your problems, and how that makes
you feel. Then depending on the situation, I might offer help and advice. I
feel that most people just want to be heard, so I will not nag or advice too
much (but again, depending on the situation).
3) I know that it's all about you, not about me
I am here to listen to your problems, not talk about my
experiences. I will put myself in your shoes. I will not say too many "If
I were you" because I am not you. I here to listen to you, not to be
annoying and make you feel worse. I will listen with an open mind and a
open heart.
This is how I will be there for you, my friend.